The SideFocus Library
Guides for the way
you actually love.
Quiet, practical writing for gay and bi men who are sides — on knowing what you want, consent, opening a conversation that lasts, meeting safely, and staying healthy.
What does “Side” mean? Read the explanation at WhatIsASide.com.
IDENTITY
Knowing What You Actually Want
Quiet questions to ask yourself before you ever swipe.
4 min read
CONSENT
Saying Yes, Saying No, Hearing Both
Consent isn't a contract — it's a conversation that keeps going.
5 min read
COMMUNICATION
How to Open a Conversation That Lasts
Beyond "hey" — how to say something worth answering.
3 min read
SAFETY
Meeting in Person, the First Time
A short checklist that lets you relax and be present.
4 min read
HEALTH
Sexual Health, Plainly
What every gay and bi man should keep in his back pocket.
5 min read